Can you see the wall of resistance in this picture? It was HIS suggestion to take a pic of the two of us yet in normal passive aggressive fashion he squints his eyes and looks uncomfortable. In the years before puberty we should have established our physical bond. Even with years of therapy and hugs, my son is still uncomfortable with himself and me. I can only pray it gets better.
I realize that this all seems nit picky. It is. But it’s the only way my attachment challenged son can express his anxiety and fear. By being manipulative, playing dumb and acting like an orphaned child. My son is NOT dumb but he plays it as a coping mechanism. My son is NOT an orphan. He is loved and wanted, but there is such a difference between him and his sister. She used to have these SAME behaviors until she did the work to attach and believe and transform.
Why would I put all this nonsense out on the web? Because I believe there are moms out there who need to know they are not alone, that I share their frustrations and fears and discouragement. I put it out there to face possible criticism because it’s important to see true healing taking place (my daughter) even if her brother hasn’t come as far. To know that perseverance counts for something.