Motherhood: Rewarding and Heartbreaking Journey

Blogger Marty Walden shares the joy of motherhood from parenting adopted children with wounded hearts, even when the story is unexpected and heartbreaking.

As I watched my oldest daughter's journey to motherhood I was grateful to play an active part in her life and now in my precious grandson's life. From the very beginning Rachel was full of questions and transparency. Did it take you long to get pregnant? Did you have morning sickness when you were pregnant with me? When did you get over … [Read more...]

Stretching Exercises for the Heart

God often uses stretching exercises to challenge and change us for a new season of life. Join blogger Marty Walden as she shares how God is working in her.

Recently I've been learning how to stretch in many different ways. In the foods that will keep me healthy. In stretching exercises for the body that will keep me active for my grandson Aiden and (hopefully) many more to come. In the challenges of juggling work and life at home after concentrating on my family for over 20 years. As I … [Read more...]

What Happened to the Duggar Family?

What should be our response when the Duggar family news and scandal reveals a pornography addiction and infidelity? How do we lift the veil of perfection? WE ARE ALL BROKEN. Our families are broken. Our lives are messy and nothing like the Facebook posts you read about everyday. #Truth and you know it. I know it. We all know it. No one should be held to a standard of perfection.

I am not one to dive into the realm of public opinion but I DO have opinions on most topics (and my husband would definitely agree!) I just choose not to air them on the blog where my desire is always to encourage, inspire and empower others. I have been a huge fan of the Duggar family and their show 19 Kids and Counting. We don't have cable so … [Read more...]

No Longer a Slave to Fear

From Bethel Music, the video No Longer a Slave to Fear beautifully shows how we've been liberated from the bondage of fear because we're children of God.

We have just concluded 21 days of prayer and fasting with our church (Daystar Church) and it has been both a wonderful and challenging experience. The goal of this period is for our church family to refocus our attention on God and His purpose for us as a church and as individuals without earthly distractions. As best I … [Read more...]

Becoming Conference 2015

Becoming Conference 2015

I am happy to share with you some exciting news about a conference I'm taking part in later this month. Along with Amy at Atta Girl Says I'm going to be leading a hands on furniture painting workshop at the 5th Annual Becoming Conference organized by my friend Jen at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam and Jenny at … [Read more...]

No Fake Happy Face, Just My Usual Transparency

Hillsong I Surrender devotion and video

As Christians we sometimes paste on a happy face and gloss over our wounds and struggles. After all, we're supposed to have it all together, aren't we? If we don't have the answers then who does? I don't know about anyone else, but I certainly don't. I hurt. I cry. I ask the Comforter to intercede when I can't even form the … [Read more...]

What Happens When You’re at the End of Your Rope?

Ever feel like you're at the end of your rope? Know that the sweetest and most profound dreams are often born in the tiniest slivers of leftover life.

Bible study teacher Beth Moore (Living Proof Ministries) and I have a long history. I have taken several of her studies through the years and her words have spoken life into me at critical moments in my life journey. I am so grateful for the way God has used her to teach me His truths. One little detail you may not know about her is that she and … [Read more...]

Let It Go: The Song God Keeps Teaching Me

Marty Walden shares her faith and how God helped her release her anxiety and pain when her husband faced surgeries, unemployment, a teenaged son runaway and a family death, all within a six month period.

I started this post last Christmas because I knew my husband and I were headed into a season of uncertainty. The single lyric of Let It Go was stuck in my head and for good reason.  Tim was scheduled for hernia surgery followed by rotator cuff surgery in early December. As a painting contractor that meant a six month recovery and … [Read more...]

9 Tools to Survive a Crisis

Marty's Musings shares her personal story and 9 tools to survive a crisis. From taking care of yourself to knowing when to ask for help, there is hope!

  Do you remember the movie Groundhog Day?  Phil (Bill Murray), a weatherman, is set to cover the yearly emergence of the groundhog from its hole. He gets caught in a blizzard that he didn't predict and finds himself trapped in a time warp. He is doomed to relive the same day over and over again until he gets it right. Right … [Read more...]

Are You Listening to the Lies and Negative Thoughts?

Are you allowing lies and negative thoughts change your life? Embrace that God finds you lovable and complete!

As I have lived life 24/7 with my adopted children over the last 15 years I have learned how their early wounds affect their thinking. Many years of therapy and prayer have helped me confront the undesirable messages from my own life. I realize how negative thoughts affect relationships of all kinds. What I believe … [Read more...]

I Am Not Alone….and Neither Are You!

I Am Not Alone worship video by Kari Jobe reminds us that even in the midst of the darkest night God gives us hope and strength for each new day.

 One of the hardest parts of my brother-in-law's recent death has been knowing the grief that my precious sister-in-law and her girls are suffering through. Yet I'm always reminded that none of this surprises God or catches Him unaware. I have heard the worship song I Am Not Alone by Kari Jobe several times recently and the … [Read more...]

Easter Blessings Through the Years

Counting your Easter blessings can transform your family as the years pass and your children grow into adults. Celebrating faith and family is important!

  Easter has always been an important family holiday for  us, a time to gather together for a meal and share a common faith. Our family has changed immensely over the years. From a family of four to a family of seven overnight.    Years of Easter baskets, worship music and family pictures on the … [Read more...]

Just Breathe In and Breathe Out

Amazing Grace - Marty's Musings

   I take a deep breath. Breathe in. Breathe out. What was that breathing technique I saw online? 4-7-8 Inhale for a count of four. Hold for a count of seven. Exhale for a count of eight.  Heart still flip flopping an extra beat. I open my email and watch as the messages flood my … [Read more...]

The Day I Fell in Love With my Pregnancy Stretch Marks

Struggling with body image after giving birth, a first time mom encourages women to embrace the beauty and gift in those pregnancy stretch marks.

Thank you to my daughter Rachel for sharing a precious reminder of the beauty of motherhood with "The Day I Fell in Love With my Pregnancy Stretch Marks."    When I became pregnant with our son, Aiden, I was the heaviest I had ever been. I knew it would help to lose a few pounds but my husband thought I was sexy when I was … [Read more...]

When a Heart Breaks

When a Heart Breaks - Marty's Musings

There are joyous seasons in life, days filled with sweetness and precious memories, almost to the point of taking my breath away. Then the seasons of grief arrive, days filled with inconsolable heartbreak, crushing the wind from my lungs. Blessedly I've known both seasons and every one in between. Ordinary days full of diapers … [Read more...]

3 Practical Ways to Add More Meaning to Your Life

3 practical ways to add more meaning to your life by finding and meeting the needs of others, especially the homeless people in your community.

  I am a big believer in modeling behaviors I'd like my children to imitate. I want to reach their hearts in teaching them compassion for others. But let me be honest. In the area of helping others outside of the family, I often fail. I get caught up in the minutia of everyday life and modeling these important elements of … [Read more...]

Our Family Needs Your Prayers

Our Family Needs Your Prayers - Marty's Musings

I had every intention of sharing an adorable post today full of pictures this weekend of our new puppy and, of course, our baby grandson. Unfortunately, life sometimes shocks us into reality and heartbreak. Saturday was one of those days. We got a call early in the morning that my husband's brother had a heart attack. No … [Read more...]

Exciting News and a Dare to Dream Big Dreams

Marty's Musings shares how to to dream big dreams and embrace the unknown when God touches your heart and changes your plans.

  A few weeks ago I was sitting at my computer working (not unusual in the least) and felt a moment when I believe God planted a dream within me (quite unusual for me!) Today I want to share just a few thoughts on how I believe God is working in my life and family. I have been working diligently on my blogging business for almost two … [Read more...]

What Makes a Good Marriage? Being Broken Together

What makes a good marriage? Blogger Marty's Musings shares that brokenness and being remade through faith are the keys. Casting Crowns "Broken Together/"

Today is my 28th wedding anniversary. 28 years. Almost three decades of living life together. Fights. Makeups. Morning breath. Childbirth. Just ordinary lives lived through extraordinary stories. I wish we had an inkling of what we were getting into when we got married on that Valentine's Day many years … [Read more...]

4 AM Feelings From a Sleep Deprived Mom

Honest and transparent feelings from a first time new mom will reassure that faith and love will see you through! from Marty's Musings

Many of you longtime readers have heard all about my oldest daughter Rachel, with everything from her DIY wedding in 2011, baby gender reveal party last August and the unexpected arrival of baby Aiden early in December. From age eleven and a half and up when we adopted a sibling group of three in 2000, Rachel was so faithful in … [Read more...]

4 Practical Tips for Coping with Anxiety and the Blues

4 Practical Tips for Coping with Anxiety and the Blues - Marty's Musings

  I've been amazed at the way my recent post with my story on when to see a family therapist has resonated with so many people. For the most part I don't consider myself an anxious person, but there are definitely times that I lose sight of my blessings and only focus on the problems. My goal here is to encourage you so I thought I'd … [Read more...]

Unafraid: Why I Went to See a Therapist

Not sure when or how to ask for professional help with a personal situation? Blogger Marty's Musings shares a personal story of encouragement.

When I started this post several days ago I had no idea that our lives would again be filled with a new crisis with our adopted son. I just knew I needed help coping with my own feelings and hurts God had been revealing to me. As we continue to walk forward with our son, loving him and getting him help to continue the process of healing his … [Read more...]

Should You Give up Your Dreams for A Better Plan?

Should You Give Up Your Dreams for a Better Plan? - Marty's Musings

I first wrote this post in mid 2011, never imagining the progress my adopted children would make in their search for attachment. I was just clinging to God and hoping the pain wouldn't last forever.   Even with all this progress, recent days have brought more heart wrenching revelations in our parenting journey, and I am … [Read more...]

What No One Wants to Talk About at Christmas

What No One Wants to Talk About at Christmas - Marty's Musings

Today I went into the attic and pulled out the baby clothes I had saved from my two biological children. It's been years since I tenderly went through them. I touched them almost prayerfully, letting the memories roll over me in waves. As a new mother you can never imagine that the little infant you cradle will one day be cradling their … [Read more...]